Blocking is healthy and what about ghosting?

(By Hella Ahmed) I find that ideological fever is a means of protecting the self-interests and wounded egos of those who are exposed to the vast and growing knowledge of our world today which confronts them with their intellectual limitations and their inability to evolve, or renew without committing frauds. And they defraud. These characters draw on the invalidated past to tamper with something supposedly new while camouflaging frustrations that they, in fact, only violently expose. That’s mostly how they gain supporters. Technology and inflation harm people who cannot afford a good quality of life, who may be inclined to fall into magical thinking as an escape to experience the illusion of temporary relief. They are the followers of choice for false self-centered moralizers.

The pseudoscience of moralization

We read a lot of bullshit every day on social networks and low-value media including cheap newspapers. For example, it was basically stated somewhere that anyone who opposed the domination of psychoanalysis had an empty life. It’s still frightening to even read that the essayist Michel Onfray has an empty life, according to whom? But let’s put this nonsense aside and think intelligently instead. Pseudoscience is far from being nourishing, it is disconnected from reality while claiming to deepen reflection on it to discuss our modern times in relation to the virtual and inflation (among other things). This just doesn’t make sense to me.

Isn’t it ridiculous to feel entitled to give life lessons when you don’t seem to be of sound mind? Science would not ask you to sacrifice yourself to follow the faith of a preacher or to bolster the ego of a psychoanalyst who strives to promote repetitive tragedies and anguish as a path for the people who must prove their worth through suffering, useless fights or a deprivation designated as the ultimate remedy by whom feels so special and with the power to decide for all. Often, these ideological discourses that take the form of violent doctrines aim to strengthen the financial interests of specific individuals and increase the notoriety of elitists, misogynists and half-disguised racists. The struggles are presented to us as being necessary for the good of humanity while the real issues are clearly identifiable.

I don’t see intellectual integrity happening when an intimate relationship between religion and personal convictions is used for moralistic purposes. Regardless, those who believe themselves to be above everyone else often draw their substance from thinkers who are making serious efforts and who are not oriented towards the outdated, that’s where they get good ideas and then present them as innovative and impactful writings (lame results, because they are notably made up of visible copy and paste).

For my part, I took a completely different path, to develop my own thinking with dignity, and I am very proud of my ability to write contemporary originals which reflect on life with a pragmatic eye exploring new discoveries, with common sense as a basis for my independent research. All my essays and pieces are a source of pride and what comes next will undoubtedly be glorious.

What about ghosting?

I don’t like reads that use anecdotes to give advice, help with mental health or psychological distress to which our modern communications can contribute. They often combine weak arguments and make generalizations based on little information. As an introduction to the subject of ghosting, however, I recount a small interaction I had with an acquaintance. We had reasoned that if someone sent a text message to a person with whom a friendship was under construction, or perhaps even a more intimate relationship, to inquire about the development of what they had previously discussed, that he did not get a response within a reasonable time, a few hours, when this usually happens, would it be appropriate to draw a hasty conclusion? To quickly think that ghosting is taking place? Would being offended by it be justified?

I thought there were two possibilities to start with and we discussed my interpretation.

• The non responsive person doesn’t want to talk about it immediately. Everyone has personal reasons, do we have to share everything? And right away? I don’t think so and I don’t recommend that anyone feel this need or bow to pressure to do so. You need to go with the flow while protecting your privacy, knowing that the choice is ultimately yours to communicate or not, to vent or not.

• That person no longer wants to talk. This may seem like a radical interpretation, but it is based on the way communications have been going with smart phones and social media, everything is moving fast and we expect some clarity quickly. Moreover, we all need to be vigilant, trust has new issues these days, dating depends a lot on apps and before some people get to finally connect in real life, they have already chosen to invest time on other online prospects. New friendships also have to deal with this type of competition and the fact that our attention is being drained, we lose focus easily.

Let’s look at blocking situations:

• If someone is trying to drag you into their dirty buzz to get more attention using you because they or their organization has no other way to exist on social media, feel free to block that person and the pawns in service, you have your own business to take care of and your territory to protect.

• If you are being stalked or harassed, blocking is definitely the first thing to do.

• If an exterior entity has the intention to politically or commercially exploit your organization using parasitism by creating similarities and synchronization to implant the idea of ​​a connection (that does not really exist) in people’s minds, you must strengthen your borders and your security. You must innovate and demand distance at all costs, starting with blocking. Stay uncompromising.

• If a copycat stalker is using your content (intellectual property theft, perverted moves to create a non consensual partnership based on hostility), you need to block immediately. Now that dishonest creepy individual will certainly continue to copy and paste, as a parasite nourishing it’s existence leeching off you, will blocking resolve the situation? No. it won’t, but you have at least expressed your discontent and drew the line one more. These people can get obsessed for a very long time, a few years, until some kind of fulfillment in their personal lives makes them forget a little about you. They can’t produce without you, but you can keep being yourself, an original. So focus on your own work and get bigger, they will just dry out after some time and die as empty copies.

• If you are accused of taking the easy way out because you refuse to engage in hostile exchanges with obsessive, intrusive people displaying aggressive or/and agression behaviour, they are basically pissed that you are not complying with nefarious intentions. You don’t need to waste your precious time and reputation being included in their trashy scenarios. Block and watch where the sun shines.

So I explained about ghosting that it was rather wise and responsible to respect the choice of someone who no longer wanted to talk to me, they don’t have to like me, they can change their mind about being connected or not, that’s freedom. He added, it makes sense, why would I be offended by not being able to communicate further with someone who doses not like me? I’d rather have a relationship with someone I like who wants to know me and be part of my life.

Being put like that, it seems logical and wise, but it is not so simple to understand for everyone and at any age, it requires maturity, a certain self-awareness, and of course the type of empathy which is not predominant in the conduct of individuals with aggressive behaviours who may not take no for an answer or gracefully face rejection, as well as people who tend to objectify others because they are emotionally dependent or incompetent in business.

Women and appearances

“Influencers in Europe as in the United States and elsewhere are crooked and have empty lives”, is such a statement not odious? How dare we put everyone in the same bag and turn a personal opinion into a generalization? That would be quite an infantile attitude, wouldn’t it? Also, “the use of cosmetic surgery is a choice made by women with empty lives and probably little education”. Yes, another madness. You have to suffer from an inflated ego and make yourself the center of the world to judge like that, believing that your words are wise when it is rather hatred expressed which gives the impression of an underlying envy and an unjustified sense of grandeur.

Women have the right to do whatever job they want and change their physical appearance if they want. Cosmetic surgery is part of humanity’s progress; people use it for different reasons that concern them personally. Of course, abuse exists as in everything, like with food for example, does a dying person who does not eat much in order to look good in a swimsuit have the right to criticize the physical appearance of another woman perfecting her body by means other than starvation to feel beautiful and enhance her self esteem? Value judgments are often a reflection of the egotism of those professing them.

There are a lot of strong, smart, powerful women in the world, and a lot of envious ones too, who try to feel superior by downplaying other people’s achievements and attacking their rights. They can’t even manage to scratch what great independent women really represent for society.

Protecting peace of mind and property

Repeat as a mantra to be blessed: I will not get into unnecessary fuss with someone I don’t like to help them feel alive, intelligent people cannot profit from recurring bullshit, they need nourishment for the soul, not poison.

Protect your peace of mind, use your intelligence to be an original, not a copy, to proudly embody your individuality. Do not participate in online hate, this is not how you will prove your worth or your ability to overcome difficulties. Some people’s affection for tragedy serves them in ways that don’t fit your personality. You should not serve as an object in their schema to make them feel imposing and recognized. Live your life the way you want, not the way they dare think they can choose for you, because they can’t mind their own business, not having enough to feel important. They selfishly need you, but you don’t need them, you don’t need their trash. Instead, you should focus on what will make your life fulfilling and enjoyable.

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