Let’s consider the double standard that occurs when a person accuses someone of being a sycophant to someone who supposedly doesn’t care about them. This accusation is based on speculation, generalization, reputation, and so-called truths exposed in the past. Isn’t communication, unless absolutely technical, information somehow reshaped and guided towards an underlying objective? The right words can suggest anything we want to be heard, muffled, or subtly planted.

The target and the magnet

The case of the targeted person is not settled or clear, which partly explains why indirect and irrelevant messages are sent as signals to warn and belittle anything personal or professional being considered in connection with the powerful magnet causing a fuss. The pseudo-analyst making the accusations is only guessing about the unknown. The acrobatic attack seems inappropriate, considering that personal life events should not be commented on by individuals who are free to have their own feelings and manage their professional matters. Outspoken individuals posing as seekers of truth, who would certainly not allow their own feelings or intentions to be questioned, keep demonstrating that freedom is often subject to a double standard.

The gold medal of sycophancy

The irony, when the outspoken analyst is assuming to please someone exploiting the target (someone who will give a hand here and there to return the favour) doesn’t that show us that we are all sycophants to someone or certain people? I think « that the phony » making up a useless story wins the sycophancy gold medal, since the person under observation, receiving subtle warnings and criticisms, remains a mystery, a victim watching the funny scene dissociated, not caring much about the gossip, not being concerned about the shenanigans. But hey, everyone has to keep busy, and some, desperate for attention, like twisted plots.

No connection without action

Oh! There seems to be a connection between the sycophant and the individual attracting sycophants, but let’s face it, when someone powerful wants to be helpful or invested in a relationship, nothing can stop the process; things are done frankly and quickly. You go get what you want when you’re in a position to do so; you don’t mumble about it or play around like a confused teenager. Busy people don’t waste time, they connect, proceed, and succeed, so if nothing is clearly happening, then nothing is happening. Really.

When you have everything, you can afford to take risks; you’re covered, and you can afford to not care at some level because you won’t lose. When you have nothing, because the option of having has been taken away from you, you’ve got nothing to lose. Being a sycophant is also being a fan who will never approach his idol, never getting the help you ask for, sadly carrying the stigma of rejection. It is also being ridiculed when you have no allies to make you look strong as you try to make a place for yourself in a field. Being a sycophant is being the naive victim of racism and hypocrisy, at the mercy of the privileged preaching democracy while assimilating vulnerable people, convinced that it is only legitimate to exploit.

Some wisdom

Live and let live, love and let love, take care of your own happiness and let people decide how to create their own. In other words: cut the bullshit about sycophancy, it’s not a science, it’s a condition on a continuum, and we all have it, but hypocrites suffer more severely from it. Let’s say that they get the « fake denial » comorbidity too (and I am using the word « comorbidity » as a metaphor), and it’s a hot mess you don’t want to deal with. When people wish to meet and associate romantically or professionally, they just do it; it’s no big deal and it’s no one’s business but their own.

Sleep tight tonight, jealousy and envy; nothing cool happened.
Not yet .

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