Dear diary (2) : the science of cycophancy exposed


Let’s consider the double standard that occurs when a person with motivations (you can try to dig about if you want to waste your time and energy on a boring trip with nothing adventurous on the horizon) accuses someone of being a sycophant to whom supposedly doesn’t care about them. Supposedly, because the claim is based on speculation and some kind of generalization related to some exposed truths, to be proven, knowing that every communication, unless absolutely technical, is information somehow reshaped and guided towards an underlying objective carried by the right chosen words making it possible to share anything we want heard, muffled or subtly planted.

The target and the magnet

The targeted person’s case is not settled or clear, and this is partly why indirect and irrelevant messages are sent as signals to warn the target and belittle anything personal or professional that’s being considered in connection with the powerful magnet causing the so- called sycophancy, closely being watched by the nosy on a mission. This means that the pseudo-analyst guesses and concludes on the unknown, trying to make it look useful and relevant when there is simply not much happening to examine.

This great acrobatic blow is inappropriate behavior showing a puerile attitude, considering that personal matters should not be commented on by individuals who have the right to have their own feelings and professional matters that concern them personally and should not be put in question by outsiders since we all have the right to private life. Outspoken individuals posing as seekers of truth who would certainly not allow it if you dared to question their feelings or personal intentions seem to demonstrate that freedom is often the victim of a double standard.

The gold medal of sycophancy

When that outspoken analyst does some bullshit and does it to please someone who is exploiting the target, someone with privileges who is going to lend a hand here and there to the clairvoyant, for more fame and money to return the favor (or to be loyal to some ideology nurturing groupthink while at the same time being supported by that group for the beneficial outcomes it brings to its members), doesn’t that show us that we are all sycophants to someone or certain people?

I think that the pseudo analyst who makes up a useless story wins the sycophancy gold medal since the person under observation, getting subtle warnings and criticisms, is something of a mystery to the bored researchers. A victim of nonsense, probably watching the funny scene dissociated, not caring much about the gossip, not feeling concerned with the ploy of someone trying to make a point about nothing interesting or serious. About nothing really. But hey, everyone has to keep busy and some desperate for attention people, lacking creativity and knowledge, like twisted plots that are their only options to get anything seemingly done.

No connection without action

Oh! There seems to be a connection between the sycophant and the individual attracting sycophants, but let’s face it, when someone powerful wants to be helpful or invested in a relationship, nothing can stop the process, things are done frankly and quickly. You go get what you want when you’re in a position of power, you don’t mumble about it or play around like a confused teenager. Busy people don’t waste time, they connect, proceed and succeed, so if nothing is clearly happening, then nothing is happening. Really. 

When you have everything, you can afford to take risks, your security is covered, and you can afford to not care at some level because you can’t lose. When you have nothing because the option « to have » has been taken away from you, you have nothing to lose. Being a sycophant is also being a fan who will never approach the idol, it’s never getting the help you ask for, being at the opposite sadly absorbed and ridiculed when you have no allies to make you look strong. It is to be the naive victim of racism and hypocrisy. Many privileged preaching democracy and inclusion do it while assimilating vulnerable people, convinced that it is only legitimate to steal talent and vision.

Some wisdom

Live and let live, love and let love, take care of your own happiness and let people decide how to create their own. In other words: cut the bullshit about sycophancy, it’s not a science, it’s a condition on a continuum and we all have it, but hypocrites suffer more severely from it, because they have the comorbidity « fake denial » (and I am using the word « comorbidity » as a metaphor) and it’s a hot mess you don’t want to deal with. When people want to meet and associate romantically or professionally, they just do it, it’s no mystery and it’s no one’s business but their own. Stop guessing wild. 

Sleep tight tonight sneaky envious, restless vicious, nothing cool happened.

Not yet .. 

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